7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

Habit 6

Habit 6: Synergize

Synergy is achieved when two or more people work together to create something better than either could alone. Through this habit, teens learn that it doesn’t have to be your way or my way but rather a better way, a higher way. Synergy allows teens to value differences and better appreciate others. Synergy is the reward, the delicious fruit you’ll taste as you get better at living the other habits, especially at thinking Win-Win and seeking first to understand. Learning to synergize is like learning to form V formations with others instead of trying to fly through life solo. You’ll be amazed at how much faster and farther you’ll go. Synergy doesn’t just happen. It’s a process. You have to get there. And the foundation of getting there is this: Learn to celebrate differences.

A good band is a great example of synergy. It’s not just the drums, or the guitar, or the sax, or the vocalist, it’s all of them together that make up the sound. Each band members brings his or hers strength to the table to create something better than each could alone. No instrument is more important than another, just different.

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7 Habits of Highly successful Teens

7 Habits of Highly successful Teens

Habit 5

5. Seek First to Understand, and Then to be Understood

Because most people don’t listen very well, one of the great frustrations in life is that many don’t feel understood? This habit will ensure your teen learns the most important communication skill there is: active listening.

Why is this habit the key to communication? It’s because the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who they are—a unique, one-of-a-kind, never to be cloned individual. People won’t expose the soft middles unless that feels genuine love and understanding. Once they feel it, however, they will tell you more, than you may want to hear. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care,

Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears. 7 percent of communication is contained in the words we use. The rest comes from body language (53 percent) and how we say words, or the tone and feeling reflected in our voice (40 percent). Most people are eager to talk and had rather talk than listen. We have one mouth and two ears. This means we should listen twice as much as we talk. We actually learn more while listening rather than we talk. Learn to listen and listen to learn.

Listen, really listen, for understanding.

Seek first to understand then to be understood—LISTEN.

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7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

Habit 4

4. Think win-win

Teens can learn to foster the belief that it is possible to create an atmosphere of win-win in every relationship. This habit encourages the idea that in any given discussions or situation both parties can arrive at mutually beneficial solution. Your teen will learn to celebrate the accomplishments of others instead of being threatened by them. Win-Win is a belief that everyone can win. It’s both nice and tough all at once. I won’t step on you, but I won’t be your doormat either. You are about other people and you want them to succeed. But you also care about yourself, and you want to succeed as well. Win-Win is abundant. It is the believe that there’s plenty of success to go around. It’s not either you or me. It’s both of us. It’s both of us. It’s not a matter of who gets the biggest piece of the pie. There’s more than enough food for everyone. It’s an all you can eat buffet.

Win-win always creates more. Perhaps the most surprising benefit of thinking Win – Win is the good feelings it brings on. The true test of whether or not you are thinking Win-Win or lose-win thinking will cloud your judgment and fill you with negative feelings.

Win-win will fill your heart with happy and serene thoughts. It will give you confidence. Even fill you with light. Think Win-Win or no deal.

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7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

By Sean Covey

For teens, life is not a playground, it’s a jungle. And, being the parent of a teenager isn’t any walk in the park, either. In his book, the 7Habits of Highly Effective Teens, author Sean Covey attempts to provide “a compass to help teens and their parents navigate the problems they encounter daily.”

How will they deal with peer pressure? Motivation? Success or lack thereof? The life of a teenager is full of tough issues and life-changing decisions. As a parent, you are responsible to help them learn principles and ethics that will help them to reach their goals and live a successful life.

While it’s all well and good to tell kids how to live their lives, “teens watch what you do more than they listen to what you say, “Covey says. So practice what you preach.  Your example can be very influential.

Covey himself has done well by following a PARENT’S example. His Dad, Stephen Covey wrote the book The 7 habits of Highly Successful People, which sold over 15 million copies. Sean’s a chip off the old block, and no slacker. His own book has rung in a more than respectable 2 million copies sold. Here are his seven habits, and some ideas for helping your teen understand and apply them:

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